Inside My Journal
You Must Judge Others to Find More of Yourself
After a few months, I caught on to what she was doing. She was always guiding me back to see where I did the same thing that I judged in him, just in different ways, in the past, less obviously, etc. She pushed me to question if was even true about my husband.
Happiness Recipe: Less Positivity and More Shadow Integration
We've all heard that we can choose happiness, be positive, and recite positive affirmations and that will make us happier.
My experience says that this isn't enough.
I’m not actually down on positivity. I grew up with a super positive mom and in so many ways it served me well. I like that for the most part I find it easy to be positive, happy, smiley, and optimistic (even when I am not feeling it inside).
I thank my mom for that ability.
When we focus only on our positive traits and have an…
5 Pillars of Gentle Shadow Integration
As we do shadow integration work, it's so easy to get stuck when we come upon aspects of self and humanity that can be tough to accept. Sometimes shadow integration can be pretty hardcore, but I invite people to take a more gentle approach to the integration of our shadow, one based on self-love and compassion.
Here are the 5 Pillars of Gentle Shadow Integration:
Pillar 1: Self-Compassion
I like to think of it like this - how can I blame myself for what my ego did to protect me? How can I bl…
Shadow Integration 101: Projection and Judgments
Most of the women who join The Whole Soul Way program NEVER want to be called selfish.
Or lazy.
Or disrespectful.
Or mean.
Like they abhor those things––and they feel disgusted at the idea that anyone would say that about them.
And they get uncomfortable when we get to the point in The Whole Soul Way program where we talk about the "Cherished Self" and they learn that what we find offensive or repulsive in another is mirroring a part of us that's also in us. 😱
That we may do our best …
Love Ourselves: Let's Replace Love with Include
It's so hard to "love" parts of ourselves that we've spent our lives trying to "not be".
But what if it was less personal and more, neutral.
Like a thing we have to do in order to get to the fulfillment, inner peace and connection that we all want? Maybe the word "love" trips us up and the better word is "include."
Can you INCLUDE all aspects of yourself? Even those parts of you that you try hard not to be?
This is the journey of being inclusive - to integrate all parts of ourselves into w…
Categories
- Authenticity (18)
- Change the World (11)
- Communications (5)
- Conscious Living (30)
- Empowerment (20)
- From Deb's Journal (4)
- Inner Work (28)
- Leadership (5)
- Mindfulness (14)
- Parenting (13)
- Relationships (14)
- Self-Love (28)
- Shadow Integration (5)
- Videos (4)
- Worthiness (9)
- Aging (1)
- Nervous System Regulation (1)
- Parent with Dementia (1)
- Parent Yourself (1)