It's so hard to "love" parts of ourselves that we've spent our lives trying to "not be".

But what if it was less personal and more, neutral.

Like a thing we have to do in order to get to the fulfillment, inner peace and connection that we all want? Maybe the word "love" trips us up and the better word is "include."

Can you INCLUDE all aspects of yourself? Even those parts of you that you try hard not to be? 

This is the journey of being inclusive - to integrate all parts of ourselves into w…

It's so easy to neglect self-care because we have too much to do. We KNOW that if we were to take care of ourselves, everything else would be easier and better, but we just can't do it (for a myriad of reasons hidden behind "I don't have the time"). Nevertheless, I recommend we look at it differently.

What if Self-Love is more of how we "be" in the world and the tiny little choices we make all day, rather than "another thing to do on your list?" 

What if it's the way we act all day long - can …

A poem from my journal on June 14, 2018

I am the voice that screams from within

Aching to be heard, not to be dimmed

I see the pain that was told to hide

Longing for a voice, rumbling inside

I tried to stop him from hurting you

But fear wouldn't allow me to

I'm the tiger that roars a ferocious "no"

Clawing and growling, stop, please go!

I'm the mama bear who protects her young

Staying close and alert, so no harm can be done

In the face of violation, I was born

But I was n…

Most moms have been told “take care of yourself”. Self-care has become pretty mainstream.

But I see a lot of moms stuck at self-care when their soul is asking for self-love.

Seriously, I highly recommend self-care. I recommend that we all get 7–8 hours of sleep at night, and if we have new babies, that we sleep during the day when they sleep. We need to move our bodies, eat reasonably healthfully, and take time to do nurturing things that refresh and rejuvenate us. You may choose to meditate, …

Maybe you've heard people talking about self-love as if it’s just “this thing” you should just do or have.

But I want to be completely honest with you

Self-love is not an easy journey and can feel uncomfortable

Tremendous rewards, but hard work nonetheless.

We don’t get taught how to love ourselves. In fact, most of us get taught how to reject and criticize ourselves, to beat ourselves up, through subtle and not-so-subtle cues throughout childhood and beyond.

Self-love is not just “girl, yo…

You’ve probably heard people say “you can only love others as much as you love yourself.”

Myth or reality?

I think it’s a myth.

I mean, you love your kids like crazy, right? And most people have been in loving romantic relationships and have loving, compassionate friendships.

So, nah, I don’t buy it…I think we can love others even when we don’t love ourselves.

But I also think it’s pretty unlikely you’ll be truly happy if you don’t love yourself.

“To me, it’s extremely unlikely that withou…

Ten years ago, I was deeply entrenched in the belief that if my husband would be more romantic, affectionate, connected, attentive, helpful, fill in the blank, I would be happier. I would feel more loved.

Maybe you can relate on some level?

I believed that my husband caused most of my problems. Truthfully, I was about ready to leave my marriage.

“In life, you can blame a lot of people and you can wallow in self-pity, or you can pick yourself up and say, ‘Listen, I have to be responsible for…